Mornings are Tough – One Million and One Things To Do! | #ForBetterBeginnings

If you were to stop and think about your day for a second, what would you think about? Would you think about everything that you do in a day and how busy you are?

If you could pick a specific time of the day you find to be the toughest, what time would that be? It’s the part of your day where you have what feels like one million things to do, everyone is looking to you for everything they need, you have places to be at specific times and you have hundreds of thoughts going through your mind about what is happening and what needs to happen.

Does that sound like your mornings?

It sounds a lot like mine!

Mornings are the toughest part of my day and I always feel as though I have so much to do and so much going on. Emily and the triplets always get up at the same time and instantly they want me to change their bums or help to use the potty, get them their bottles and a banana and of course turn on their cartoons. All the while I am trying to just get myself out of bed and ready to start the day. We all know what it is like first thing in the morning; you are trying to adjust to the new day and it may take you a few moments or even minutes to fully get out of bed and get ready to take on the day. I am happy to share my outlook on mornings with you and to be partnering with PlaytexBaby on this post, to talk about how mornings are tough. PlaytexBaby understands that your mornings as a parent are tough and their goal it to help you start your day off right and give each of your mornings a better beginning.

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We all experience mornings and everything that comes along with them. Whether you are a stay at home parent, like myself, or a working parent, we are all going through the same thing. You wake up and you need to get yourself and your kids dressed or change their bums and then it’s time for everyone to eat. Not only do you have to make breakfast, but you are also faced with the challenge of getting everyone to actually eat. Then there is a quick clean up, depending on how big of a mess they made. After that, you may have to make lunches if your kids are in school or go to daycare, then do all the drop offs and finally get yourself to work. Don’t forget about the race with the clock and making sure you are getting everyone to where they need to be on time.

If you don’t have kids in school or daycare and are a stay at home parent, then you start to think of all the things you need to get done in the day. After everyone is ready and fed, it’s time to clean up and make a list of things to do. You would be surprised at the amount of things you need to do when you are home. If you have watched our recent video, you would see what my morning routine looks like as a stay at home mom. No matter what your morning routines consist of, they are no doubt tough!

I think what makes mornings so tough, is the fact that they determine how the rest of the day will flow. I know for myself, if I can get through the morning smoothly, it sets up the rest of the day to flow smoothly too. Even if the morning is rough, as long as I can get the things I need to get done in the morning, I’ll have the rest of the day open for everything else.

Say you wake up late; all of a sudden you are now in a rush, you start to forget things, maybe the kids’ lunch or homework that was due and you just feel frantic all day. Or you may wake up on time, but your baby decides they don’t want to eat and throws the food all over, you are now stuck cleaning up an extra mess you didn’t think of and maybe worried as to why your baby doesn’t want to eat and then it leaves you flustered for the rest of the day.

If you woke up on time, your morning routine flowed smoothly and you accomplished everything on time, it makes you feel relaxed and ready for the day. There could still be a lot you need to do in the morning, but if everything goes according to your plan, the rest of your day will hopefully go well too.

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PlaytexBaby has created a special video to show how they understand that mornings are tough and as parents we have a lot to accomplish within a few short hours. The video depicts four different parents who all show a part of our mornings that can be tough. From changing bums, to feeding, to getting dressed and getting everything ready to go, all four are scenarios we have experienced in the morning. All four parents are using their PlaytexBaby products, which shows that even during those tough times, there are products out there to help simplify your life. I know from my experience, the convenience of the Playtex Diaper Genie Elite is great on those busy mornings when throwing out dirty diapers.

I loved the video and the similar ending that each parent showed. At the end they all stopped for a moment and looked at their baby. To me it showed that no matter how tough their morning may be or how stressed they may feel, in that moment they know it is all worth it and maybe it is not as bad as they think.

We may all have hard days as parents and even though our mornings can be a struggle, we are all doing a great job. Your babies don’t understand the stress you may feel or the amount of work you need to do. They are just having a fun time and enjoying the moment. I think it is a good reminder to remember when you are in a tough situation or feel overwhelmed to just stop and look at your baby and see all the love and happiness they have in their eyes. To them you are doing an amazing job and they will still love you and smile at you no matter how messy your house is or how late you may be running that day.

Mornings are tough, but we as parents are tougher!

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HOW DO YOU DEFINE MOTHERHOOD | #ForBetterBeginnings

Motherhood: the state of being a mother – dictionary.com

Motherhood by definition is the state of being a mother, but in reality it is much more than that. The definition of motherhood is quite simple and it doesn’t give you any indication of what to expect, what it will be like, how you will feel and everything in between. It’s a simple statement that tells you one thing, you are a mother.

Over time, you develop this image of what motherhood will be like. From the images we see in magazines to what we watch on TV or through characters in movies, we are constantly given this idea of what it will be like when we become mothers. As your friends and family enter into motherhood, you get an even closer glimpse as to what to expect, but still nothing can prepare you when you enter yourself.

To me, motherhood starts the moment you find out you’re pregnant. From that moment on you are constantly thinking about someone else and you are physically changing your body to create this little baby. From that moment your mind begins to race and I know from my experience, I started to think about what I need and how I would plan for our baby. PlaytexBaby has always been there for moms from the beginning and they have really developed a strong understanding of what moms and babies need right from the start. PlaytexBaby is a fun-loving brand who is supportive and celebrates the unexpected, which is why they strive to be there #ForBetterBeginnings. I have trusted PlaytexBaby from the beginning and I am excited to share my view on motherhood what it means to me. Thank you to PlaytexBaby for sponsoring this post!

When I found out I was pregnant with Emily, April 2013, I was scared and excited all at the same time. I had ideas of what to expect and what to look forward to, but it didn’t become real until Emily was born. Being the oldest sibling in my family and having two younger sisters, 12 and 16 years younger than me, I had the experience of changing, feeding and holding a baby, but I wasn’t there during the late nights or early mornings.

When Emily was born, my whole world changed. It was now filled with so much love for this little baby who was all mine and who I would spend every day with. We decided to wait until Emily was born to find out if she was a little boy or a little girl and it was one of the best surprises! That day was one of the best days of my life and I still, to this day, remember looking down at her little face and just being so in love.

After the initial meeting and those first few hours at the hospital, reality set in and I was now responsible for our little baby and had to take care of her. The next few days after that, while in the hospital and going home were challenging. I was trying to recover from my C-section, learning how to nurse for the first time, resting when I could and trying to find time to sleep, having everyone come to visit and meet Emily and then just spending time with her myself.

They always say the first two weeks are the hardest, but I think it could be extended to the first month. There was so much to take in and to adjust to that first month. So many new experiences, challenges and things to learn and I found it took about a month to really get a grip on things and start to feel comfortable. I found the same to be true after the triplets were born, but now I had to learn to do everything multiplied by three and with a 1 1/2 year old running around too.

When I think about what motherhood means to me, I think about the endless love I have for my kids, the thought that I know I would do anything for them and I would do everything I could to protect them. Motherhood is about caring for someone else who relies on you for everything and who looks up to you. It’s about changing your schedule to fit the needs of your baby and kids, not necessarily forever, but I think for the first few months to a year it’s easier to follow their schedule than to change it to fit yours. Motherhood is about making sacrifices sometimes and knowing that although your life is completely upside down right now, it won’t be like that forever. It’s about enjoying the time you have with your kids and living in the moment. Knowing that there will be really good days and really bad days, days where you don’t know what to do and other days where you are on top of everything as it happens and knowing that it is ok. It’s ok to have days where you feel sad because chances are you will have many more days that are filled with happiness. You will experience many different emotions in a single day, from laughing one minute to a full-blown crying session the next minute. Motherhood is not just a picture in the moment, but a journey that will last you a lifetime and will be filled with so many experiences that may be good or bad.

IMG_5342I think it is so important to realize that motherhood is going to be a different experience for every mom out there. It may not be the picture perfect experience that you may see on TV or in movies, but it is your experience and it is what you make it! Just know you are not alone and at some point during motherhood, every mom has experienced the same thing as you!

When you enter into motherhood for the first time, or start over again for the second, third, fourth or even fifth time, make sure to go in with an open mind and the ability to be flexible. You never know what you will experience and each time will likely be different. Find friends and family you can rely on to be there for you and find brands you trust, who understand what moms and babies need. PlaytexBaby wants to be there for you and your baby as you experience your journey in motherhood and to give you both what you need #ForBetterBeginnings. I am happy to be one of the #PlaytexMoms and I know I have found a brand to help me along the way!

IMG_2081Motherhood has been a roller coaster ride for me from the beginning and I am still learning as I go. I have never laughed, cried, smiled, yelled and spent more hours awake in my life as I have these past 4 years. Motherhood has taken a lot out of me and at times has given me more than I ever thought I could handle, but it has been worth every grueling moment. I love my four little babies and I couldn’t imagine life without them. They have helped me become who I am and they have shown me how to care and love for someone unconditionally!

I hope that as moms we can always support each other and be there for one another. We are all going through the same thing, even if at different times or in different ways and to know there are other moms experiencing the same thing as you it is comforting to know you are not alone.

I want to wish everyone a Happy Mother’s Day and I hope you all have a day filled with love and relaxation! You are doing an amazing job!

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P.S Don’t forget to remind yourself that you are the BEST MOM EVER!

-Corrie

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A Helping Hand When Nursing Triplets #ForBetterBeginnings #PlaytexMoms

When our triplets were born, I knew one of the biggest challenges was going to be feeding. Not only did we have three little babies to feed, but they would all be feeding at the same time. As only one mom with two “built-in bottles,” I needed that third bottle to help feed all three at the same time. Luckily we had the experience with Emily to help us in our decision-making when it came to choosing a bottle. Now that they are older and transitioning out of bottles we need a sippy cup that would work for everyone, including Emily, that is simple and enticing to use. Thank you once again to PlaytexBaby for sponsoring this post and helping us share our experience and review of the Playtex™ Ventaire Bottle and the Playtex® Sipsters® Cups. As always, the thoughts and reviews throughout this post are 100% my own and I am thrilled to share with you my genuine experience with both the Playtex™ Ventaire Bottle and the Playtex® Sipsters® Cups.

For the first 2 months of Jackson, Olivia and Levi’s lives I relied on the Playtex™ Ventaire Bottles for every feeding. Although I was breastfeeding and had supplemented with formula for the first few weeks, I would pump beforehand, then divide the milk by three. I did this to make sure everyone was getting an equal amount and to keep track as to how much each baby was having. I like the fact that the VentAire® bottles have such large and easy to read numbers and indicators on the side, which makes it very easy to accurately measure how much milk is going in each bottle. During those 5am feedings, I could still pour the milk out equally, even if my eyes could barely stay open!

Around the 2 month mark, the triplets were gaining weight and growing, so I was ready to start nursing them. I was worried that they would have a hard time nursing, since they were using bottles from the start, but The Most Like Mom® NaturaLatch® Nipple made the transition very easy. I was so happy when all three successfully nursed for the first time, even after 2 months of bottle feeding. Knowing that I now had the option to switch between nursing and bottle feeding was great. This allowed me to utilize the extra help I had when family and friends would visit, because it was easy for them to grab a bottle knowing there would be no confusion between bottle and breast for the triplets.

Another key part of the Playtex™ Ventaire® Bottle is the anti-colic vent. The anti-colic vent prevents air from mixing with the milk and over the course of 2 months of bottle feeding, we did not experience any gas, spit-up or fussiness from Jackson, Olivia and Levi. Emily had really bad gas at some points and for the first 2 weeks of her life, she was very fussy and hard to settle. It wasn’t until after trying the Playtex™ Ventaire® bottle that the gas and fussiness went away. I was so glad I used the Playtex™ Ventaire® bottles right away with the triplets because I couldn’t imagine having to comfort 3 babies with gas and spitting up, all at the same time.

I do have to add in, that I really do like the new designs of the Ventaire® bottles. The new design is a wider bottle and the lid to the bottle has a spot for the top of the nipple to sit in when you put the lid on. This may seem like such a small feature, but after travelling with bottles in a cooler bag or diaper bag and having the milk leak because the nipple bent, this is a great new feature. I also have to say the Anti-Colic vent has been given a great improvement. The older design still did exactly what it was meant to do, but the new one looks and feels a lot more durable and secure in the bottom of the bottle. I think some may say there are a lot of parts to clean, but I actually like the ability to remove the top and bottom of the bottle. It makes it easier to clean and to get to the bottom of the bottle if milk gets stuck or sits there for a day, because let’s face it; we don’t always clean the bottle right when baby is done eating!

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Now that Jackson, Olivia and Levi are almost two, we are in the process of fully transitioning from bottle to sippy cup. I do still like to give them a bottle before bed, but they are now in the fun chewing stage. I am starting to notice holes in some of the nipples from their constant chewing, so I think it is time for the final switch from bottle to sippy cup.

We have been using The Playtex® Sipsters® Cups for a little while now and they are great. They range from Stages 1 to 4, with the option to choose from a spout cup, a straw cup or a spoutless cup. They are very easy to use and everyone has been enjoying them. We are currently using stages 2 and 3 of the Playtex® Sipsters® Cups and they have made the transition very easy for a few different reasons. The first being the fun characters on the cup that I am sure every child is familiar with. Emily, Jackson, Olivia and Levi are obsessed with Peppa Pig and they all recognized her on the cup right away. Emily has also started to really like My Little Pony, so the Playtex® Sipsters® Stage 3 My Little Pony™ has become her special one. Levi has also taken over the Playtex® Sipsters® Stage 3 Thomas & Friends™ one we have and it is pretty funny to watch them all hand over the right Sipsters® that they each use.

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Emily, Jackson, Olivia and Levi just don’t stop. When I hand them their Sipsters® Cups, they take them and go. They don’t just sit nicely until they are done; they need to be running around, continuously playing and drinking throughout their activities. The insulation keeps their drink fresh and allows them to play that much longer.

The fact that Emily, Jackson, Olivia and Levi don’t sit still, even with their Sipsters® in hand, may be worrisome, but The Playtex® Sipsters® Cups are 100% spill-proof, break-proof and leak-proof and PlaytexBaby even guarantees that! I have watched first hand these Sipsters® Cups get thrown around, dropped and banged and not once has anyone of them broken or leaked. I do have to mention though, that it is important to make sure the spill-proof valve is secured and tightly in place or they will leak. I handed Olivia a Sipsters® and just watched all the milk pour out because I forgot to make sure the leak-proof valve was in correctly. It is very simple and easy to make sure the leak-proof valve is properly secured; it was just my carelessness in the moment that made it happen.

The last part, that I really like about the Playtex® Sipsters® Cups is the ease of cleaning. It’s not the fact that all parts are dishwasher safe, but the fact that the leak-proof valves are so easy to clean and they transparent. You always hear of stories of parents opening a valve or part of the sippy cups to find mold that has built up because they couldn’t clean inside. The leak-proof valve doesn’t have an inside part and it can easily be removed from the spout of the Sipsters® Cup to be cleaned. This was one of the first things I noticed right away and it is nice to not worry about the potential of hidden mold.

I sometimes cannot believe how fast the time has gone and how big Emily, Jackson, Olivia and Levi are getting. It blows me away thinking back to the days when I held them all, feeding them a bottle, to now calling them over and handing them their own drink to drink. I hope that you have found my review of the Playtex™ VentAire Bottle and the Playtex® Sipsters® Cups helpful and have also gained a little insight into what our experience was and is like for using both while feeding our triplets and toddler.

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To find out more information about both products you can visit playtexbaby.ca for the VentAire Bottle and playtextbaby.ca for the Sipsters® Cups

You can also purchase the Playtex™ Ventaire Bottle online through Walmart, Babies”R”Us, Amazon.ca and PlaytexBaby.ca and the Playtex® Sipsters® Cups online through Walmart, Babies”R”Us, Amazon.ca and Playtexbaby.ca.

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More Babies, Co-Sleeping with Triplets and So Much More…Our first Q & A!

We have been wanting to do a Q & A video for some time now and we finally made it happen!

A Q & A, is a great way to get to know us more and for us to share our thoughts, insights and experiences in a different way. We created a Q & A post over on our Facebook page and hoped to get some fun questions we could answer. The questioned asked were great and just what we hoped for!

We answered quite a few of them, but know we will have to do another Q & A, very soon to answer all the remaining ones and any new ones that come up!

Dan and I always love to share our lives, experiences and thoughts on many different topics relating to our lifestyle, kids, parenting and hobbies or interests. The two of us are just two regular people who are making our way through everyday life with 4 kids, including a three-year old toddler and almost 2-year-old triplets. Nothing is ever perfect and we know we are not perfect either, but we have a great outlook on life and the life we live with our kids. We are genuinely happy people who love to smile and have fun and we want to share some of that happiness with everyone around us!

Thank you for all of the great questions asked the first time around! We are looking forward to the next one! In the meantime, if you have any questions always feel free to send us a message on any of our social media platforms and we try our best to get to them and answer them for you!!

Here is our first Q & A!

 

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WE HAVE A BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!

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We are starting off the new year with some very exciting news. We are happy to announce that we have officially teamed up and partnered with PlaytexBaby!

Our partnership with PlaytexBaby is going to include a lot of fun aspects, such as product reviews, sharing our experiences through lifestyle posts and giveaways on our Blog and social media outlets! We have trusted Playtex from the beginning with our babies and genuinely love the products, so this is a perfect partnership for us!

As parents we are always asking questions, seeking answers and hoping we have made the right choices and decisions for our kids. When you become a parent for the first time you are constantly learning what works, what doesn’t work and at times it can become completely overwhelming. You look for that one thing you know will make your life a little bit easier and what can help take away some of that stress and anxiety being a first time parent brings.

To me, For Better Beginnings, means exactly that, a better beginning. Taking away that worry at the beginning of your journey as new parents and allowing you to enjoy those first precious moments with your newborn baby is what I think of when I hear For Better Beginnings.

I remember shopping for baby items and creating our registry before Emily arrived, looking around at all the products available and just thinking to myself “What do I choose?” There are so many products out there and you want to make sure you buy the right ones that will be perfect for your little baby. To know that PlaytexBaby has created products specifically designed for a mother and her baby is very reassuring and helps to alleviate some of that worry right from the start. It gives you the chance as a mother and new parents to concentrate and place your focus on your new little baby to give everyone a better beginning.

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I am overjoyed to say that I am a #PlaytexMom and to have the ability to share my knowledge and experiences with many other moms out there. As a mom myself, I know the kinds of questions we ask on a daily basis, the various concerns that are always running through our minds and the expectations we have for ourselves. I understand the struggle to want the best for your little ones and the desire for perfection, but also the fact that no matter how much you try, everything may never be perfect.

I spent a lot of time reading product reviews, seeking out advice from friends and family and hoping to gain some insight into what to buy and what to do during the many stages that come along with having a baby. Although we are still learning and going through new stages, we have experienced many with our four children. I now have my own personal experiences to share, as well as things I have learned along the way. As a #PlaytexMom, I hope to provide insight to new moms who are entering into motherhood for the first time, on baby products that will help right from the start.

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PlaytexBaby has taken on a new look and feel, in order to connect with the new generation of moms. It is very exciting to see this change and to know they are eager to learn, understand and work with moms and what we are looking for. It is great to see PlaytexBaby designing products specifically with new moms and babies in mind, which then allows them to achieve their goal of providing everyone the tools for better beginnings!

We hope you are just as excited about this partnership as we are and we encourage you to follow along with our blog so you don’t miss out on the awesome giveaways, product reviews and lifestyle posts. You can subscribe to our blog by email or with your WordPress account!

For more information about PlaytexBaby and all of their products, please visit their website Playtexbaby.ca

 

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Our first family science experiment!

We took advantage of a nice cold day to conduct our first ever Baby Gang science experiment!

With 4 young children who take up just about every minute of our time, we are a family who loves fun and adventure. What makes that special is doing it together, as a family. That is what family is all about.

Watching the kids grow has both Corrie and myself in such amazement to see how a developing mind works. Their curious little minds like little sponges absorbing all types of information makes me wonder how they see the world around them and what they are thinking about!

Recently on a cold day we took advantage to come up with a fun science experiment with the kids. It was -12 degrees Celsius (not including the windchill) and we wondered if water could evaporate in this freezing cold water. It had the kids super excited!

Makes for a great parenting win!  Watch below 🙂

Be on the look out for more fun with the kids!

 

 

 

 

 

HOW I TURNED MY CAR INTO A FAMILY VEHICLE

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Having multiple children at once (we have triplets) is something you can never expect to happen or plan for. We had a unique situation, we were planning for our second when Emily was 10 months old and 3 days before her first birthday we discovered we would be expecting…TRIPLETS!

To this day it still fascinates and shocks me that in 2015 we were going to have 4 kids under the age of two, but the thought of having our kids close in age was really cool! After spreading the news about our expecting multiples we had various friends and family tag us in specific baby products that could help make our lives easier or that we could use given our situation. Beds, cribs and car seats.. you name it and if it had the ability to fall under the multiples category you can guarantee that we would been tagged in it!

One product that always popped up and our friends were sure to tag us in was the Diono Radian RXT car seat. We were literally tagged to use this product 1000+ times as it had a very sleek design, reinforced side walls, energy absorbing EPS foam, extended rear facing and a five point harness system… Basically it was super safe and looked very cool with 3 seats together!  – But how did that differ from other car seats?

We had the recent opportunity to partner and team up with the our friends the Parent Life Network and they were so great to inform me that I could turn my sedan vehicle into a family vehicle using these Diono Radian RXT car seats… What excited me most is after seeing this product multiple times, it was time to make it a reality!

WATCH HERE AS I TURN MY SEDAN INTO A FAMILY VEHICLE!

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The result!?

After testing out this product, and going on multiple adventures with my triplets; Jackson, Olivia and Levi + plus Emily on separate occasions, I was in awe! I was impressed with how easy they were to install and how awesome it was to transform my sedan car into a complete family vehicle!

Given my situation of having 4 kids I had to take it to the next step in upgrading one of my cars to a mini van [and the Diono car seats have proved to be a huge space saver in the van]! But it goes to show that if you are expecting to have 1 – 3 babies, that you do not have to go out and pay all this money to purchase a mini van/SUV – you can actually save money by purchasing a diono car seat and to safely and comfortably fit your kids in your car! the Radian RxT is a great space saver with a very unique design that has a very extensive set of safety features and I highly recommend them for any family big or small!

The Diono Radian RxT car seat is a game changer!

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Finding Balance Between Life as a Mom and Life as Me 

Finding a balance between me as an individual and me as a mom is something I have struggled with from the very moment I became a mom. I jumped right into the role with both feet and never looked back. I threw who I was to the curb, never thinking twice about the person I left behind. I was so focused and determined to be the best mom I could be and thought that was all that mattered. Now here I am, 3 years later, thinking about that person, trying to figure out who they were.

As I said in the post about my life for the last three years, it has been filled with everything baby. From the moment I wake up, to the moment I go to sleep, and even in my dreams, it is all baby. I have a difficult time steering my thoughts away from anything baby related and the moment that I do, I feel instant guilt.

For 3 years I have put everything I am and everything I have into being a mom and I have enjoyed every moment, but I start to think back and slowly realize I really haven’t done anything for me… and I felt guilty just writing that! I haven’t taken the time to go out and do something that I love, I haven’t stopped to focus on helping me become a better me and I most definitely haven’t put time towards my relationships. I have simply just been a mom.

I am a mom 24/7 and I feel as though I have lost touch with who I am. I have lost touch with the outside world, I have lost touch with friends and I have lost touch with what it is like to be an individual person. I don’t know how to balance everything and I don’t know what it takes to make that happen. I think it is one of the most challenging things I have had to deal with in my life.

I see how unbalanced my life is sometimes and I have seen the effects it causes. I don’t give myself a chance to clear my mind or enjoy time with other people. I don’t give myself time to spend with Dan and work on our relationship and I can start to see how our relationship has changed. By not taking the time to be with each other and do things without our kids, we lose the relationship we had and the connection we worked to build for so many years. We just end up becoming 2 people raising kids together.

This is something I know I really need to work on and actually make it a priority. I need to figure out a way to take time for myself, to focus on me and reconnect with who I use to be. I have to learn to step away from my kids and learn that it is OK to do so.

Guilt has played a big role in my struggle of finding balance. I feel guilty, thinking about anything other than my kids and I feel guilty for thinking I could do something without them. I feel guilty for thinking of me and for the thought that I haven’t done anything for myself.

I start to question things and ask myself, how could I think about anyone other than my kids? And what do I need that is so important that I have to stop and think about or do for me that is more important than them? I tell myself I don’t need to go out and I don’t need to be around other people because when I do go out with them I talk to people and that is the same as if I was to go out by myself or with friends, when in reality it’s not the same thing. It feels like a never-ending cycle that I can’t seem to break.

Dan likes to refer to this stage in my life as “mom mode” and it is a pretty accurate title to have. Right now my mind is focused on my kids and being there for them. I know I will be in mom mode for the rest of my life and I don’t think it will ever go away, but I do think that the intensity will decrease with time. As they get older I know I won’t worry as much and will be more comfortable leaving them, but when will that time be?

I have always said I wouldn’t let having kids stop me from doing anything and it’s true, Dan and I have done so much with them. From going to the movies and out for dinner, to shopping and driving to Florida, we have continued to do the things we did before. Little did I know, that it has stopped me from being my own person. I want to find the right balance between every aspect of my life and I feel it is something important that I need to work on. I don’t want to lose sight of who I am and I don’t want to end up so disconnected from the outside world. I hope I can find a way to go out and enjoy time as myself with friends and Dan and be able to do things for me without feeling guilty for leaving the babies. I know it will be a challenge, but it is a challenge I need to take on and make it work.

 

How have you been able to find balance between your life as a parent and your life as an individual?

How long has it taken you to feel comfortable leaving and not feeling guilty for doing so?

 

 

 

Embrace the Chaos

Having 4 kids all under the age of 3 is a lot of work. Heck, having any number of kids ranging in any age is a lot of work and no matter the number or age, you are left with very long and busy days. There will be days where everything has been consumed by chaos and you feel you have lost control and the only thought you have is when will this day be over. Those days may seem long and never-ending, but just know those are the days you will remember and look back on and hopefully be able to smile about and laugh at.

I have had my fair share of those days so far and I can only imagine what is in store as everyone gets older. When things get crazy, it is hard to think of ways to control the situation, but then I think, why not embrace the chaos.

This morning has been a perfect example of the start of a chaotic day. The triplets woke up bright and early at 6:30, ready to play and were not ready to wait for breakfast, they wanted in NOW! and they did not hesitate to let me know with high-pitched screams. I tried to buy some time with a tray of Cheerios, but instead they ended up across the floor, crushed into little pieces. Emily then woke up and she was able to distract them for a little bit, but she too was hungry and needed a bottle and banana ASAP. Things finally calmed down after breakfast was made and everyone enjoyed their eggs. Shortly after they then realized they were tired from getting up so early, so more crying began and then they fell asleep in their chairs. Olivia didn’t sleep and the boys couldn’t sleep for long as Olivia decided it would be fun to climb onto their chairs while they slept. Before I realized that she was sitting on them, it was too late and she woke up Jackson. And that was just the first few hours of the day.


Now, as I am writing this post, Emily is in the process of dumping out all the toys and I can’t help but watch as Jackson, Olivia and Levi are laughing along and probably thinking now this is going to be fun. I guess I can thank her for that, because before she did, Olivia and Jackson were climbing into the buckets and trying to get behind the TV.


Toys are everywhere and although there is a ratio of 20:1 toys per baby, they are still fighting over the same toy or wanting to play with the converter. On top of all of this, we don’t have air conditioning and it feels like it is 40 degrees in our house. Everyone is sweating and sticky from running around and I don’t know if it’s better to be outside in the heat with some wind, or inside out of the heat. What I do know, is that everyone is having a great time and they are happy.

It does get hard sometimes to let things be and embrace the chaos, but I have to remember that they are only little still and continuously learning and growing. By exploring, trying new things and experimenting with different places, toys or just stuff around the house (nothing dangerous of course) they gain independence and experience. They don’t understand what they shouldn’t do and what will happen if they do something, so they need these moments of complete chaos to learn.


Watching Emily, Jackson, Olivia and Levi playing together is the cutest thing and they really do make each other laugh. Whether they are all running around or jumping on the couch, they are always smiling and laughing. As a mom, to have kids who love each other and love hanging out together is the best thing I could ask for. When they play together, it tends to become crazy and very chaotic, especially trying to watch everyone and make sure no one it getting hurt. Emily is the initiator almost all of the time and I know I say this a lot, but to the triplets, Emily is the funniest person they know.

The video below shows just how funny they find Emily, especially Olivia and how she is the ring leader. It was when I recorded this video that I realized how much fun they have together, even when there is chaos all around. I absolutely love to hear their laughter, so if that means we have to live in a crazy, non-stop chaos filled house to hear it, well then I guess that’s the house we will live in!

 

 

 

My Life For The Last 3 Years

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For the last 3 years my life has been all about babies. From finding out I was pregnant in April 2013 to now having 4 children under the age of 3, all I think about day in and day out is baby.

When I wake up each morning my first thought is usually “okay, time to get everyone up and get going” and is usually accompanied by 1, 2 or 3 crying babies. Even on the rare chance I am up before them, I would still think to myself, “okay, when will everyone be getting up.” My second thought would then be “what should I make for breakfast” followed by “what should we do today?”

The rest of my day is filled with questions and thoughts, such as:

Who needs a bum change? Oh no, not another poop!

Who is hungry? Who is still hungry? Are they really hungry again?

What time is it? What day of the week is it?

When is Paw Patrol on again and did we already watch Tinga Tinga Tales?

Did I just feed Jackson or Levi? Who is this, Jackson or Levi?

Emily where are all the nummies? Can you help me find them?

Okay what is going on and why is everyone crying?

You all have to share!

Stop! No, don’t do that!

Emily why are you naked and where is your diaper?

Who want’s a bottle? Who wants Cheerios?

Okay, everyone off the window sill!

No don’t touch that! Don’t put that in your mouth! Eww!!

Who is ready for a nap? I am!

The list is endless and I could go on and on about every thought that goes through my head or every question I have to ask during the day, but if there is one thing they all have in common it is that they are all baby or child related.

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After thinking about all that has happened over the last three years, I have come to realize that I have put everything else that was once in my life on the back burner. Everything from my relationship with Dan and relationships with friends, to taking care of myself, they have all become a faint thought in my day-to-day living. I am surrounded by everything baby and I think about them morning, noon and night. I can’t help it and I find I don’t have the space in my thoughts to worry or think about anything else.

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When I ask myself, why is it like this? The only thing I can think of is, just because… Emily, Jackson, Olivia and Levi depend on me, need me and rely on me to be there for them all of the time. From getting them out of bed, to feeding them, changing their bums and just being there to socialize, teach and play with them, they need me. How could I stop to think about anything else? To me they are the most important people in my life and I would do anything and everything for them, even if that means sacrificing other aspects of my life.

I don’t mean to make it sound as though I am the only one they need or who is capable of doing things for them, because that is not the case. Dan is so involved with everything and does so much for them when he is home. I am only talking specifically about the times I am home with everyone by myself when Dan is out working. Mom’s and dad’s play just as equal roles in a baby or child’s life, but as the one on maternity leave with Emily and the triplets, I am the one responsible for their care during the day.

Each day I try to follow a routine for the triplets, especially when it comes to their naps and eating. If they don’t nap they are over tired, which makes it harder for them to fall asleep and then stay asleep and if they wait to long to eat they become very fussy and cranky. I base my entire day around their routine, from the time I eat or clean up, to when we go out to the store.They control almost everything that happens during the day.

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I am so focused on making sure everything is perfect for them and I am doing things right, I have pretty much forgotten all other aspects of life. It is hard to step away from that and try to think of something else. It is hard to go out without them because I worry about everything, although I am getting better as they get older. I just want to be with them all of the time and if that means not going out or doing something for myself, then that’s what I do.

The last three years have been the most challenging, yet the most rewarding years of my life. I have learned so much about myself and how to be a mom and I can honestly say being a mom is the best job I could ever have. With all the late nights, early mornings, spit ups, diaper changes, crying, screaming and endless laundry comes laughing, hugs and kisses, the biggest smiles, cuddles, happiness and love. Emily, Jackson, Olivia and Levi have taught me what unconditional love is and what true happiness looks like. It is so much work to raise children, no matter how many you have, but it is so worth it in the end!

 

How has your life changed since having children?

Has there been aspects of your life you forgot about after having kids?

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